But it's important to remember that what motivates one person might not do the same for another. Of course, we all change our minds on a variety of decisions throughout our lives. But that I didn't have very long so I'd better get around to changing my mind pretty quickly." "And so I was told all about that," Clara says, "with the assumption that I would change my mind, it's just a matter of time. The alternative to asking someone why they don't want to have children is often to simply assume that they're just not ready yet.Ĭlara has a family member who didn't want kids initially but then changed her mind in her late 30s. I do wonder how often someone who chooses to have children is asked why. "I've got a close friend who's always wanted to be a mum," Clara offered. But sometimes there's no complex narrative behind it. In any discussion about having children, the burden of explanation is usually placed on the person who doesn't want children. "Just wanting your life to kind of stay the same doesn't seem to be a sufficiently good reason." "It seemed to me that if I had some compelling reason why, like if I had some huge career ambition, like if I wanted to be prime minister of Australia or something, then that might be a sufficient reason and they might potentially be able to get their heads around that," she explains. But when she responds that she's not interested in having any, she says everyone invariably wants to know why. Whether that's because she got married in the past year or because she's hit her late 30s, she's not sure. It's a choice we made together.Īt a time when we champion a person's right to choose the way they live their lives, and on a show that can imagine Regency England having a Black queen, why do we still insist that a person who chooses to be childless must be damaged and broken inside? But why not?Ĭlara*, a 38-year-old living in 2021 Sydney and not Regency-era England, has been asked about having kids more lately. This is probably as good a time as any to disclose that we watched the episode on low volume with the subtitles on because the 19-month-old heir to our own dukedom was sleeping in the next room.īut surely the choice to have children is one that a couple should make together.
It's probably time to put away the notion that a couple can only be really happy if they have children, Christian Harimanow writes. And the subtext of that sequence feels clear: that couples are happiest when they have children, and if you don't want children, it must mean there's something wrong with you and you need to be fixed. It's a resolution that feels rushed and unearned. "You may think you are too damaged and too broken to ever allow yourself to be happy, but you can choose differently, Simon."Īnd literally five minutes of screentime later, a baby pops out. In the last third of the episode, the central tension around whether Simon (Regé-Jean Page) would be willing to change his mind and give Daphne (Phoebe Dynevor) the child she very clearly wanted is melted away with this single rain-soaked piece of pop psychology: "I didn't like how easily Simon changed his mind about having children," I told my wife, as if we knew these people in real life. (Heads up: this article contains spoilers.)Īnd just like every one of those other 63 million households claim, it wasn't the raunchy sex scenes that kept us watching.īut the season finale left me disappointed. The two had toxic traits that affected their relationship negatively, despite all the love they had for one another.Like 63 million other households, my wife and I finished the entire first season of Netflix's Bridgerton in a matter of days. While fans loved their relationship in the series, their bond wasn't perfect. They gave in to their urges and became an official couple, even though Simon's issues with commitment were at the forefront of their union. Although the two were friends at the start, the passion between them became too much to bear. Updated on March 12th, 2o22, by Lynn Gibbs: Daphne Bridgerton and Simon Bassett's love story was one of the most intriguing storylines in season 1 of Bridgerton. From memorable quotes to moments of passion, Daphne and Simon's love story is one for the ages. There has been a lot of discussion about the toxic elements of their relationship, but there are also reasons why these two are good together and why they work well.
As the first season was focused on the love story between Daphne Bridgeton and Simon Bassett, fans have many opinions on their union.
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